Guys rough house to have fun, girls talk to have fun. Guys physically bully one another, girls emotionally terrorize each other. Guys struggle with how girls dress and present themselves, girls struggle with how guys speak to and about them. Girls are capable of seducing guys with their body, guys are capable of seducing girls with what they say to her.
You know all this. None of what I just said should be surprising. So why is this such an understated issue? It has become such common knowledge that to protect our brothers in Christ, girls need to dress and act modestly. With guys, their call to action always seems to be one of respect rather than modesty. It is a request to refrain from perverted jokes and discussion in order to maintain respect rather than objectifying them.
But I wonder, has anyone cautioned them to be prudent in the things they say out of modesty? While the negative talk can be disrespectful, the positive can also be a form of seduction. For a guy to be a sweet talker to a girl is like a girl walking around with immodest clothing. She may be wearing tasteful clothing that so happens to cling or reveal just enough of the wrong things...sometimes she could even do so obliviously.
While I wonder if the guys have been encourages to be prudent even in their positive talk to girls, I mostly wonder how many girls understand and have been cautioned about this. And I fear not enough of them have been.
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