I didn't realize the negative impact at the time, but I see it now. I see it more and more. In most family sitcoms the dad is seen as the fool and the woman is always right. It was an object of humor that caught everyone's attention. And honestly, it was funny...on tv.
I love observing people and behavior. (I probably should have studied psychology, but oh well.) And over the years those observations have led me to realize the impact of those beloved sitcoms. Guys who have strong opinions/suggestions when single, suddenly become pushovers when it comes to their girlfriend/fiance/wife.
Yes, some of it is because they are enamored with her and just want to see her happy. But it's not always that. Sometimes they know their girl is incorrect or misinformed and they don't speak up.
According to sitcoms, whatever the guy does is the wrong thing at the wrong time. No wonder they've morphed into pushovers! Men don't like being wrong and so now they just don't share their opinion.
Not only that, but it's the gentleman syndrom. Within Christian circles I realize this issue is even worse. And I think it's because somewhere along the way they confused being a gentleman with being a pushover. Apparently chivalry also includes letting the girl get her way even when she's wrong. :\
I'm not saying I want to marry someone that fights all the time, but I need someone who can tell me when I'm wrong. I'm human, I'm wrong a lot...and my husband needs to be able to tell me when I am.
But do gentleman like that exist? If not, I can certainly live without the chivalry because I'd rather not deal with a pushover.
So to the guys; stand up for yourselves and don't be a pushover. I'm not the only girl who finds pushovers as a turnoff. Learn how to lead in the relationship, that's how God designed it to work. Don't let society/sitcoms convince you otherwise.
To the girls; let the guys know that it's okay to stand up to you. Don't shoot him down when he gives his suggestion/opinion. Give them back the reigns to the relationship and let them lead. They may not always want to, but that is the position that God made for them. Support them in fulfilling that role.
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