Everyone knows guys are visually stimulated and physically oriented. It is also known that girls are emotionally oriented. But why is it so unknown, or at least undealt with, that girls are audibly stimulated?

Guys rough house to have fun, girls talk to have fun. Guys physically bully one another, girls emotionally terrorize each other. Guys struggle with how girls dress and present themselves, girls struggle with how guys speak to and about them. Girls are capable of seducing guys with their body, guys are capable of seducing girls with what they say to her.

You know all this. None of what I just said should be surprising. So why is this such an understated issue? It has become such common knowledge that to protect our brothers in Christ, girls need to dress and act modestly. With guys, their call to action always seems to be one of respect rather than modesty. It is a request to refrain from perverted jokes and discussion in order to maintain respect rather than objectifying them.

But I wonder, has anyone cautioned them to be prudent in the things they say out of modesty? While the negative talk can be disrespectful, the positive can also be a form of seduction. For a guy to be a sweet talker to a girl is like a girl walking around with immodest clothing. She may be wearing tasteful clothing that so happens to cling or reveal just enough of the wrong things...sometimes she could even do so obliviously.

While I wonder if the guys have been encourages to be prudent even in their positive talk to girls, I mostly wonder how many girls understand and have been cautioned about this. And I fear not enough of them have been.

Human failing is so clear. You see it in the world today; in politics, in war, and in pain. It doesn't take a scholar of theologian to know how imperfect we are. And yet God paints us a picture of it in His Word, and yet He remains.

First God seeks us out. An imperfect person cannot approach a holy God any more than a common servant could approach a king. He wants us, He desires us. But don't be mistaken, He doesn't need us. But He loves us so much He needs to seek us. And as He is God, nothing can stop Him from finding us.

If I say, “Surely the darkness shall cover me,
and the light about me be night,”
even the darkness is not dark to you;
the night is bright as the day,
for darkness is as light with you.
Psalm 139:11-12

We know that to be heart to heart with a holy God, we won't walk away unchanged. So we cover ourselves and hide. But how silly is that? We choose to walk in darkness remaining blind from truth. Meanwhile God walks about incapable of being blinded by darkness. His night is brighter than our day.

But whom He seeks, He finds. He made us and He knows us. And eventually we stop hiding in the dark. We open our eyes and find Him waiting beside us.

Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light to my path.
I have sworn an oath and confirmed it,
to keep your righteous rules.
I am severely afflicted;
give me life, O Lord, according to your word!
Psalm 119:105

He graciously hands us a guide; His living word. We still remain in darkness, but now we have His light. Unfortunately our folly is not over. Now, we sit in the darkness with a lamp. It is because of this lamp we take control of our lives once again. After all we were given a light to see. Since we can see clearly, now we know how to properly control things.

It was I who knew you in the wilderness,
in the land of drought;
but when they had grazed, they became full,
they were filled, and their heart was lifted up;
therefore they forgot me.
Hosea 13:5-6

How ridiculous are we? More specifically, how ridiculous am I? Sure I was given a lamp, but I am not God. I still cannot walk through the night as if it were bright as day. No, my visibility is tied to what this lamp allows me to see. God is the only one who can see everything around me and yet I still like to act as if I have seen the whole picture.